[timspencer]

Its a tough one especially at this time of year, they say that the grave is for the living for somewhere to go and remember, but I think we all know Val is never out of your thoughts Bob and remembered every single day, that's what counts.

We lost Dad over Christmas 20 years ago this year, and it being a "milestone" it will hurt a bit more this year, especially as my mums health is failing fast, we will make the regular visit on Christmas morning but I doubt Mum will make it again next year as the Alzheimers takes it toll, I don't visit that often I admit, but I have photos of him around our house and think about him all the time, I even talk to him, we shared a love of music and cars (its his fault!) and I still have one of his cars still which I will never sell.