when friendships break down - Page 2

RPWC · 11th March 2019, 13:10

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Originally Posted by Darcydog

People who believe they have a right to your time as their life is more important than yours.

Watch out for energy vampires - they drain you.

Get rid of them. They need you - not the other way round.

Well said, I learnt the hard way, others saw him for what he is, and went their own way.

stamfordzs · 11th March 2019, 14:42

Friends you can choose, family is another matter! The scenarios you speak of are part of life’s trials and tribulations. Been there myself and can honestly say family are the worst as cannot always shake them or avoid as sooner or later you will cross paths.

WillyHeckaslike · 11th March 2019, 14:50

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Originally Posted by macafee2

A crack appears, something happens, something is said. The crack is repaired. Another crack appears, you ignore it worried of making it worse but it gets worse anyway. Eventually you stand at the edge of the crack and look across at how wide it is, you look down and see how deep it is, you look sideways and see how long it is. You wonder if it is worth repairing or if to let what is on the other side, break off and slip away. macafee2

I would bite the bullet and get a plasterer out.

MSS · 11th March 2019, 16:59

German Shepherds are the best friend a man can have - their loyalty is absolute and unconditional.

The wife very much takes after the GSD.

People in general are too much trouble so I prefer not to have deep friendships.

Darcydog · 11th March 2019, 17:57

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Originally Posted by mss

German Shepherds are the best friend a man can have - their loyalty is absolute and unconditional.

The wife very much takes after the GSD.

People in general are too much trouble so I prefer not to have deep friendships.

Unsurprisingly Maninder - I totally disagree - (not about the GSD, about friends)

To me friendships are more important than anything else. I value them enormously and treat friends as I would like to be treated myself.

Deep mutual respect and honesty is the key.

Some people can provide that standard - others fail.

MSS · 11th March 2019, 18:17

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Originally Posted by Darcydog

Unsurprisingly Maninder - I totally disagree - (not about the GSD, about friends)

To me friendships are more important than anything else. I value them enormously and treat friends as I would like to be treated myself.

Deep mutual respect and honesty is the key.

Some people can provide that standard - others fail.

I respect your views and feelings Clive. I did only say what I prefer.

COLVERT · 11th March 2019, 18:23

Unfortunately it's the way of the world. Very little stays the same. Only death is certain.

Darcydog · 11th March 2019, 18:30

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Originally Posted by COLVERT

Unfortunately it's the way of the world. Very little stays the same. Only death is certain.

And tax.....

macafee2 · 11th March 2019, 19:02

we have sent an explanation/apology via email, not sure if it has been read. The wife has received a text message that suggests email has not been read.

What has been said to us recently has left the wife angry but not confrontational.
What happened yesterday has left us thinking they need to get a life but then we are different.

we will wait and see what happens.

I'm sure many can relate to this
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5hr64MxYpgk

macafee2

gadget1960 · 11th March 2019, 19:37

It's all part of life's rich tapestry I'm afraid, no doubt we have all been there to some degree but at some point you will realise that you have to decide just how much c**p you want to put up with.
I personally think that friendships along with relationships should 'flow' naturally, if you have to 'try' to make it work ... there's something wrong!
This is your life, NOT a rehearsal, live it how you see fit and do the things that make you happy and above all .... cut out all the negative issues that threaten your inner well being.
Sorry if all of the above sounds a bit heartless but I too have learned valuable lessons the hard way over many years and in the end .... enough is more than enough in my book.
Whichever way it goes, I hope you get it sorted.

11th March 2019, 14:42	#12
stamfordzs Newbie MG ZT-T, MG ZS 200 Join Date: Jan 2019 Location: Waterlooville Posts: 15 Thanks: 1 Thanked 8 Times in 2 Posts	Friends you can choose, family is another matter! The scenarios you speak of are part of life’s trials and tribulations. Been there myself and can honestly say family are the worst as cannot always shake them or avoid as sooner or later you will cross paths.

11th March 2019, 16:59	#14
MSS This is my second home Rover 75CDT, Jaguar XF-S 3.0V6, V'xhall Omega V6 Estate, Twintop 1.8VVT, Astra Estate and Corsa 1.2 Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Suffolk Posts: 7,083 Thanks: 283 Thanked 624 Times in 440 Posts	German Shepherds are the best friend a man can have - their loyalty is absolute and unconditional. The wife very much takes after the GSD. People in general are too much trouble so I prefer not to have deep friendships.

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COLVERT This is my second home R75 Saloon. Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: France/or Devon. Posts: 14,003 Thanks: 3,851 Thanked 2,167 Times in 1,816 Posts	Unfortunately it's the way of the world. Very little stays the same. Only death is certain.

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macafee2 This is my second home Rover 75 Saloon & Tourer Join Date: Sep 2012 Location: Lincoln Posts: 14,912 Thanks: 1,630 Thanked 3,032 Times in 2,181 Posts	we have sent an explanation/apology via email, not sure if it has been read. The wife has received a text message that suggests email has not been read. What has been said to us recently has left the wife angry but not confrontational. What happened yesterday has left us thinking they need to get a life but then we are different. we will wait and see what happens. I'm sure many can relate to this https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5hr64MxYpgk macafee2

11th March 2019, 19:37	#20
gadget1960 Gets stuck in Rover 75 saloon Join Date: Dec 2018 Location: Maxton, Dover Posts: 519 Thanks: 183 Thanked 132 Times in 89 Posts	It's all part of life's rich tapestry I'm afraid, no doubt we have all been there to some degree but at some point you will realise that you have to decide just how much c**p you want to put up with. I personally think that friendships along with relationships should 'flow' naturally, if you have to 'try' to make it work ... there's something wrong! This is your life, NOT a rehearsal, live it how you see fit and do the things that make you happy and above all .... cut out all the negative issues that threaten your inner well being. Sorry if all of the above sounds a bit heartless but I too have learned valuable lessons the hard way over many years and in the end .... enough is more than enough in my book. Whichever way it goes, I hope you get it sorted.