A career dilema...which way to jump

Jamie · 16th February 2008, 11:31

I am in a bit of tiz at the moment...having recently moved up slightly with the Training company I have worked for since 2006, I was starting to get stuck into the role when out of nowhere two companies who employ proffesional head hunters have tried to tempt me away.

Normally I wouldnt hesitate for the better conditions, but given the IVF programme that the wife and I are on...I am nervous about swithching jobs when there is so much to deal with at home....the trouble is, my current company are in a lot of upheaval...jobs switches, people leaving and reorganisations combined with an ever increasing work load mean that its a really stressful place to be at the moment.

I dont want to worry the wife wieth my concerns at the moment...but I truly dont know what to do...one of the jobs is back with one of the mega Utilities so id be paid more...but just one of 8500 other 'numbers'...the other job is with a competitor...and of course they really are laying on the flattery thickly.....I am tempted...I really am....but I am hesitant....

Dont know why I am telling you all this...but you know what they say about a problem shared hey? Now wheres my Crystal ball....

GreyGhost · 16th February 2008, 11:47

Surely the offer of better conditions and more pay would more than compensate for any slight anguish regarding job change. As long as it does not mean anything drastic like moving house, in which case I would rather stick hot needles in my eyes having gone through that just recently.

tourerfogey · 16th February 2008, 11:58

I understand when you say that you don't want to worry your other half, but surely this is a decision you should discuss and make together?

TF

Jamie · 16th February 2008, 15:51

yes...you are both right....i have discussed it, and on the face of it...I should go for the job....with the competitor. I am just hesitating for some reason, I guess its because so much has happened in sucha short time, the promotion, the IVF, the chrysler, the job offer...I am reeling a little.

I need to dissapear to a sunny shore for a while in peace and quiet to make the decision, i am worried of making a mistake as my job is now more important than ever.

Still...I need a sign

stocktake · 16th February 2008, 16:14

Jamie, my two penneth for what it is worth is that I have found job security becomes more important as I get older, as opposed to what could be short lived "mega bucks".
Difficult in these times to ensure security but it would be one of my priorities to be able to provide (hopefully ) longterm for family.

Best of luck fella..

uk_dave&gill · 16th February 2008, 17:13

I have a fairly similar dilemma.......

I'm looking at a job in Nelson, Lancashire (a place I know nothing about) We currently live in Lincolnshire

The job is almost identical to the one I am in now, and although it's NHS, it's a fairly specialist field, and I know that I'd be in with a fairly good shout, as there's not many folks who would have the same experience

Would mean an initial salary hike from £25K to £42K, so quite a rise - especially as it goes to £52K in 5 years and my current job only goes to £32K...

BUT

It would mean moving from Lincolnshire, as no way am I going to commute 120 miles each way every day, and also no way I'd be happy to go up on Monday and come back Friday

If we did move, it would be a big decision, as we'd be leaving friends and family (although not exactly the other side of the world is it?)

Also the salary hike represents pretty much what Gill is on now, so to be actually any better off, we would have to make sure she was in a similarly paid job too!

I'm betting I go for the low risk option of convincing myself not to even apply for it!

ragitty · 16th February 2008, 17:25

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jamie-Biker in a suit

I am in a bit of tiz at the moment...having recently moved up slightly with the Training company I have worked for since 2006,

Dont know why I am telling you all this...but you know what they say about a problem shared hey? Now wheres my Crystal ball....

I would sooner have security Jamie than chase the money, our manager of 20 years left us last week and our general manager of only 3 months left us on friday, both chasing the money./

Anyway here's your crystal ball

podge · 16th February 2008, 18:07

For what its worth Jamie,reading between the lines, considering all the worries you both must have at the moment your present job is a known quantity and what you need is stability.I am sure headhunters are around all the time and security is what you might need at the present time. I hope I'm not being too personal but I have seen a similar situation with my son-in-law and his new employers( he was headhunted) are really putting pressure on him .I hope this helps a tad, lots of freinds on here I'm sure.Good luck to you both.Pete

JohnDotCom · 16th February 2008, 21:38

I have a similar option with My Company,
they want me to relocate to the US!

tourerfogey · 17th February 2008, 17:35

There is an old saying - 'if in doubt - do nowt'

16th February 2008, 11:31	#1
Jamie Posted a thing or two In Limbo Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Cheshire Posts: 1,685 Thanks: 4 Thanked 12 Times in 6 Posts	A career dilema...which way to jump I am in a bit of tiz at the moment...having recently moved up slightly with the Training company I have worked for since 2006, I was starting to get stuck into the role when out of nowhere two companies who employ proffesional head hunters have tried to tempt me away. Normally I wouldnt hesitate for the better conditions, but given the IVF programme that the wife and I are on...I am nervous about swithching jobs when there is so much to deal with at home....the trouble is, my current company are in a lot of upheaval...jobs switches, people leaving and reorganisations combined with an ever increasing work load mean that its a really stressful place to be at the moment. I dont want to worry the wife wieth my concerns at the moment...but I truly dont know what to do...one of the jobs is back with one of the mega Utilities so id be paid more...but just one of 8500 other 'numbers'...the other job is with a competitor...and of course they really are laying on the flattery thickly.....I am tempted...I really am....but I am hesitant.... Dont know why I am telling you all this...but you know what they say about a problem shared hey? Now wheres my Crystal ball.... __________________ Finally given up trying to buy the last new rover V8 from Bristol, 2 years of haggling got me nowhere! Last edited by Jamie; 16th February 2008 at 16:15..

16th February 2008, 15:51	#4
Jamie Posted a thing or two In Limbo Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Cheshire Posts: 1,685 Thanks: 4 Thanked 12 Times in 6 Posts	yes...you are both right....i have discussed it, and on the face of it...I should go for the job....with the competitor. I am just hesitating for some reason, I guess its because so much has happened in sucha short time, the promotion, the IVF, the chrysler, the job offer...I am reeling a little. I need to dissapear to a sunny shore for a while in peace and quiet to make the decision, i am worried of making a mistake as my job is now more important than ever. Still...I need a sign __________________ Finally given up trying to buy the last new rover V8 from Bristol, 2 years of haggling got me nowhere!

16th February 2008, 16:14	#5
stocktake Vis Whiz Rover 75 2.5 auto Saloon Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: LEEDS Posts: 20,593 Thanks: 2,057 Thanked 3,056 Times in 1,621 Posts	Jamie, my two penneth for what it is worth is that I have found job security becomes more important as I get older, as opposed to what could be short lived "mega bucks". Difficult in these times to ensure security but it would be one of my priorities to be able to provide (hopefully ) longterm for family. Best of luck fella.. __________________ Dave... Lost a few stones and a Gall Bladder and part of a bile duct and all of my dignity in the suppository incident

16th February 2008, 11:47	#2
GreyGhost Banned 180+ Sport Auto Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Bedford Middle Level Posts: 17,787 Thanks: 0 Thanked 18 Times in 5 Posts	Surely the offer of better conditions and more pay would more than compensate for any slight anguish regarding job change. As long as it does not mean anything drastic like moving house, in which case I would rather stick hot needles in my eyes having gone through that just recently.

16th February 2008, 11:58	#3
tourerfogey Banned Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 2 Thanks: 0 Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post	I understand when you say that you don't want to worry your other half, but surely this is a decision you should discuss and make together? TF

16th February 2008, 17:13	#6
uk_dave&gill This is my second home .. Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Town Posts: 4,166 Thanks: 1 Thanked 189 Times in 105 Posts	I have a fairly similar dilemma....... I'm looking at a job in Nelson, Lancashire (a place I know nothing about) We currently live in Lincolnshire The job is almost identical to the one I am in now, and although it's NHS, it's a fairly specialist field, and I know that I'd be in with a fairly good shout, as there's not many folks who would have the same experience Would mean an initial salary hike from £25K to £42K, so quite a rise - especially as it goes to £52K in 5 years and my current job only goes to £32K... BUT It would mean moving from Lincolnshire, as no way am I going to commute 120 miles each way every day, and also no way I'd be happy to go up on Monday and come back Friday If we did move, it would be a big decision, as we'd be leaving friends and family (although not exactly the other side of the world is it?) Also the salary hike represents pretty much what Gill is on now, so to be actually any better off, we would have to make sure she was in a similarly paid job too! I'm betting I go for the low risk option of convincing myself not to even apply for it!

16th February 2008, 18:07	#8
podge I really should get out more....... Rover 75 Tourer CDT CLUB SE Copper Red Mica Dec 01 ....now deceased....replaced by2003 Royal Blue T Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: North Warnborough, Hampshire Posts: 2,398 Thanks: 9 Thanked 69 Times in 20 Posts	For what its worth Jamie,reading between the lines, considering all the worries you both must have at the moment your present job is a known quantity and what you need is stability.I am sure headhunters are around all the time and security is what you might need at the present time. I hope I'm not being too personal but I have seen a similar situation with my son-in-law and his new employers( he was headhunted) are really putting pressure on him .I hope this helps a tad, lots of freinds on here I'm sure.Good luck to you both.Pete

16th February 2008, 21:38	#9
JohnDotCom * Rover 75 FaceLift Tourer CDTi 170BHP Auto ConnSE 2005 Model Starlight Silver Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Abergele Posts: 28,735 Thanks: 0 Thanked 6 Times in 5 Posts	I have a similar option with My Company, they want me to relocate to the US!

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tourerfogey Banned Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 2 Thanks: 0 Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post	There is an old saying - 'if in doubt - do nowt'